goals – Legally FAB

Jan

WHY WRITING THINGS DOWN TO MANIFEST WORKS!

Focus, Focus, Focus

Do you want to know why writing things down to manifest works?

Whenever you write down your goals and intentions they force you to focus.

Sitting down and collecting your thoughts require your full attention.

Whatever You Put Your Attention On Grows

“What you think about is what you bring about.” This is a very popular saying. Whatever you pay attention to is what you will experience in your life. So if you are wondering why you have had bad relationships, bad finances, bad friendships it is probably because this is what your are thinking about.

STEPS ON HOW TO MANIFEST YOUR INTENTIONS

So, you’re going to need a pen and paper. Even better a journal.

You can also use a vision board but I do not suggest using your laptop.

1. Identify your desires.

Write down at least three goals professionally and personally. The Power of Three says not to make a list of more than 3 things to properly execute without getting overwhelmed.

2. Write it down.

See Above- Use paper or vision board preferably.

3. Write down in detail what it feels like to have what you want.

The more specific the better. Instead of saying I want to lose weight say I want to eat healthier, exercise 2-3 times a week and drink more water to lose ______pounds by this date______. Now you have a method to reach your goal and a deadline to help you stay accountable and reach the goal.

4. Let it Go.

The letting go part is so you don’t give your logical mind room to begin questioning or doubting your goals.

Think of your list or vision board as magic. As soon as you have written it, it is already done.

Choose whatever method works for you and have fun with this!

Please let us know if these tips helped you and please share our article! Looking forward to seeing you dreams come true!

Jun

InspoFab: Be Intentional In All You Do!

Are you feeling overwhelmed? Do you feel unfulfilled? Are you struggling with organization? Do you want to have a more happier life?

Growing up, in my faith I was told to be intentional when I prayed. In other words, be more specific so I got exactly what I wanted. This concept can be applied to all aspects of your life not just your spiritual one. I recently applied this to my professional life when I was seeking more legal remote work. The minute I stopped applying to everything that was not that I landed the remote position I desired!

What does it mean to be intentional?

Being intentional means you purposefully interact and engage with your life for your ultimate desired outcome. This means you are purposeful in every word and action.

You respond instead of react. You love instead of fear. You embrace instead of expect. You accept instead of resist.

Why be intentional?

Drake has a rap lyric that says “Everybody dies but not everyone lives.” Be intentional because you want to do more than just get by. Be intentional because you dream and want to have a happy, successful and fulfilling life.

How to live an intentional life

1. Practice consistency with small steps. Create an ideal day and begin to execute some quick and easy actions that reflect that ideal. Whether it’s morning prayer, gym time, or reading a few pages of a book, small consistent action is more important than immediate results because it leads to long term success in the bigger things.

2. Express gratitude. Life is lived in this moment, enjoying what you have here and now versus what will be in the future will lead to a happier life everyday.

3. Take a Breathe. Pause before you make a decision. Taking a moment to reflect before making a final decision will make you more proactive than reactive.

4. Know Yourself. What’s important to you? What do you love to do? Which people are meaningful to you? What inspires you?

5. Discover Your Choices. You may feel stuck sometimes but the truth is you have unlimited choices. Widen your perspective and make a list of your choices so you have a visual for best path for you to take.

6. Declutter your life. Rid yourself of those things that hold you back from living a purposeful and fulfilling life. This can be bad habits, negative attitudes, situations, and people that do not add value to your life. Like the song says, “I can do bad by myself!”

7. Forgive. Forgive yourself, forgive others. Holding onto resentments holds you back.

8. Stop comparing yourself. It may sound cliche but it doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing. We all have our own paths in life. Even those that appear to have a perfect life DON’T! Do what’s best for you- whether it’s marrying later so you can marry the best person for you or holding out for the job you are truly passionate about. Do what’s best for you!

Dec

InspoFab: 2019 Making room for the NEW

If you are reading this post then you made it to the end of 2018. I think most can agree that this year seemed to go faster than any other year. The end of the year is typically a time to reflect on the past and dream for the future.

Reflection tends to come with regret or recognition of loss more than what you have gained. This is completely normal because as humans it is easier to focus on the negative versus the positive. We also are our worst critics. I can relate to this the most this year out of any other year other than 2015 when I lost my father. Recently when talking to friends and loved ones I found myself framing 2018 as my year of loss: loss of friends, business partners, relationships and almost my life (I was involved hit by a car while walking and had to learn to walk again). A friend simply responded, “Well what did you gain in place of these things?”

This response gave me pause. I was so busy focusing on what I felt was taken away from me that I could not see what I had gained or better yet that the lost of these things had made room for things to come.

In 2018, while I lost two friends I gained three more. I lost a business partner in a failing business but gained two partners in two projects that will bring me more success and money than any other previous businesses combined. I am no longer in a relationship but I gained my independence, confidence, clarity and self worth back. I loss the full range of motion in bending my knee from my car accident but the accident forced me to slow down which has improved my mental health (I also could have lost my life instead of just an injury in my accident). Essentially, the more I was forced to think about what I loss the more I realized what I had gained in its place. I also realized what we think is so great that we refuse to let go is keeping us from the bigger and better things that are in store for us! Do not be afraid to LET GO.

Trust me this “glass half full” perspective was not easy for me. I still have physical, mental and emotional scars from all my losses. The key is to not stay in the loss. No matter what keep moving forward so that God (life, the universe etc.) can fill those empty spaces from the losses in your life with all the wonderful new things to come (new job, new relationship, new business, new friends etc.). Some people say take it day by day. I sometimes take it hour by hour. Do whatever works best for you. I also recommend setting short term personal and professional “attainable” goals versus long term goals that will take more time and resources. Last but not least, treat yourself! A massage, a manicure, a trip even something as simple as ice cream are the little rewards we need to keep us motivated to move forward.

Here’s to pushing past the loss and making room for the NEW! Happy New Year! Wishing you nothing but success, love, laughter and freedom in 2019 and beyond!

Jan

Inspofab: A New Years Plan vs. A New Years Resolution

We are one week in 2018. How are your New Years Resolutions going? Statistically half of all resolutions fail. Read on to make sure you do not become a statistic!

Your resolution may be wrong for one of the following three reasons:

It’s a resolution created based on what someone else (or society) is telling you to change.
It’s too vague.
You don’t have a realistic plan for achieving your resolution.

Goal is another word for Resolution. Your goals should have a PLAN and be SMART. That’s an acronym coined in the journal Management Review in 1981 for specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and time-bound. It may work for management, but it can also apply to your resolutions, too.

Specific. Your goal should be absolutely clear. “Making a concrete goal is really important rather than just vaguely saying ‘I want to lose weight.’ You want to have a goal: How much weight do you want to lose and at what time interval?” said Katherine L. Milkman, an associate professor of operations information and decisions at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania.
Measurable. This may seem obvious if your goal is a fitness or weight loss related one, but it’s also important if you’re trying to cut back on something, too. If, for example, you want to grow your hair. Take pictures of your hair at the beginning and throughout the year so you can really SEE the progress. Tracking you progress into a journal or making notes on your phone or in an app designed to help you track behaviors can reinforce the progress, no matter what your resolution may be.
Achievable. Now this doesn’t mean that you can’t have big goals. However, trying to take too big a step too fast can leave you frustrated and likely lead to you failing. So, for example, resolving to save enough money to retire in five years when you’re 40 years old is probably not realistic, but saving an extra $100 a month may be.
Relevant. Is this a goal that really matters to you, and are you making it for the right reasons? “If you do it out of the sense of self-hate or remorse or a strong passion in that moment, it doesn’t usually last long,” said Dr. Michael Bennett, a psychiatrist and co-author of two self-help books. Also if you are doing something because of family or societal pressures that also may not be the best thing for you. For example, are you trying to get married because society says you should be married by 30 and so you are willing to just settle for the next guy to come along? In the short term, you may meet your goal but on other hand spend a life time of misery with the wrong person.
Time-bound. Create a realistic timeline and plan toward reaching your goal. That means giving yourself enough time to do complete your goal and setting intermediate smaller goals along the way to give yourself the motivation to keep going. “Focus on these small wins so you can make gradual progress,” Charles Duhigg, author of “The Power of Habit” and a former New York Times writer, said. “If you’re building a habit, you’re planning for the next decade, not the next couple of months.”

Comment below on your top resolution for this year and how you plan to reach it! 2018 is your year, I can feel it!:)

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